Before the Numbers, was the Passion

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Give me a more classic colour combination than black and white or monochrome, it's that life-saving colour palette, you cant go wrong with. And today's look features one of my all time favourite trends, flared sleeves.

It's been a hot minute on here beautiful people, how you doing (in Wendy Williams voice). The short break was completely unplanned and mostly due to circumstances beyond my control which eventually boiled over to laziness and procrastination. Lately, I've been looking back to some of my greatest blog milestones along this journey of four years. I mean, it's so easy to feel unmotivated when the going gets tough or when progress seems slow. 

But before content creators were defined by the number of followers or likes on social media especially Instagram, there was the genuine joy that came with creating. That satisfaction and passion that kept one going regardless of being noticed or rewarded. For me, it was my first 100 followers on the blog, hitting 10,000 views after three months of blogging. The first brand collaboration I ever did (which was free), back when exposure was enough because the thought of even being considered was humbling or even my first paid collaboration after years of pushing. 

Growth is great but with it comes complaints especially when it feels like your efforts are not matching your results. But before all the accolades and that feeling of self-entitlement that comes with fame, there were those little moments of joy and satisfaction with creating and being appreciated for it. It's so easy to get lost but I've been working to get back to that feeling of doing it for the passion. It's important to never forget how far we've come while we work to be better. It's important to never lose sight of past successes especially in the midst of failure. 


Photography by Ruth Audu

This look consists of items received from Virtue Clothier, a made in Nigeria brand that I've previously shopped and styled some pieces from before here, here and here. Today's look features two flared pieces because the only drama we really need in our lives is in our sleeves and flares in general.
 I'm not one to often wear skirts but this skirt was so worth it, it's definitely a keeper. And I'm totally here for the quality and fit. The top is lovely, quite trendy too, sadly it came with a hole but nothing too major that can't be fixed. The striped top is actually made of a netty slightly transparent material. This time around, I'd say this look is proudly made in Nigeria. You can actually shop this look below

Skirt: Virtue clothier here || Top: Virtue Clothier Similar || Shoes: Zara

 I'd rock this look to work or church, what about you?

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Give me a more classic colour combination than black and white or monochrome, it's that life-saving colour palette, you cant go wrong with. And today's look features one of my all time favourite trends, flared sleeves.

It's been a hot minute on here beautiful people, how you doing (in Wendy Williams voice). The short break was completely unplanned and mostly due to circumstances beyond my control which eventually boiled over to laziness and procrastination. Lately, I've been looking back to some of my greatest blog milestones along this journey of four years. I mean, it's so easy to feel unmotivated when the going gets tough or when progress seems slow. 

But before content creators were defined by the number of followers or likes on social media especially Instagram, there was the genuine joy that came with creating. That satisfaction and passion that kept one going regardless of being noticed or rewarded. For me, it was my first 100 followers on the blog, hitting 10,000 views after three months of blogging. The first brand collaboration I ever did (which was free), back when exposure was enough because the thought of even being considered was humbling or even my first paid collaboration after years of pushing. 

Growth is great but with it comes complaints especially when it feels like your efforts are not matching your results. But before all the accolades and that feeling of self-entitlement that comes with fame, there were those little moments of joy and satisfaction with creating and being appreciated for it. It's so easy to get lost but I've been working to get back to that feeling of doing it for the passion. It's important to never forget how far we've come while we work to be better. It's important to never lose sight of past successes especially in the midst of failure. 


Photography by Ruth Audu

This look consists of items received from Virtue Clothier, a made in Nigeria brand that I've previously shopped and styled some pieces from before here, here and here. Today's look features two flared pieces because the only drama we really need in our lives is in our sleeves and flares in general.
 I'm not one to often wear skirts but this skirt was so worth it, it's definitely a keeper. And I'm totally here for the quality and fit. The top is lovely, quite trendy too, sadly it came with a hole but nothing too major that can't be fixed. The striped top is actually made of a netty slightly transparent material. This time around, I'd say this look is proudly made in Nigeria. You can actually shop this look below

Skirt: Virtue clothier here || Top: Virtue Clothier Similar || Shoes: Zara

 I'd rock this look to work or church, what about you?

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palazzo trousers, burgundy, maroon, striped top, navy blue, wide leg trousers
palazzo trousers, burgundy, maroon, striped top, navy blue, wide leg trousers
"Find your passion and you'll never work a day in your life".
This was a phrase I always used to scoff at. I would wonder what people saying this was smoking as working a typical 9-5 job was the status quo. Most parents send their children to school in order to get a good job, not to find their passion or true calling in life. And after all a good job has always been the only way to make a proper living. But after working a typical job, getting fired, chasing passion and getting back to the 9-5 life, I couldn't agree more with the above statement but...


In a country where unemployment is on a rise daily, where finding a job is a blessing and not a guarantee, people (my family and friend) see you as crazy or ungrateful when you complain about being in the 9-5 life or even when you attempt to pursue a passion where money is guaranteed.
palazzo trousers, burgundy, maroon, striped top, navy blue, wide leg trousers
palazzo trousers, burgundy, maroon, striped top, navy blue, wide leg trousers


Everyone is different at the end of the day but the thought of just living, surviving and not passionately going through life sounds so uninspiring. Surely there has to be more to this life than going to work every day solely to get paid at the end of the month and then sort bills? Money is good, great even but there has to be more. Because what about happiness or feeling accomplished?

palazzo trousers, burgundy, maroon, striped top, navy blue, wide leg trousers
palazzo trousers, burgundy, maroon, striped top, navy blue, wide leg trousers

This takes me back to a point made in one of my Sarah Speaks here...
" At the end of the day, it's not just about any job that pays the bills but that job that makes one excited. That job that makes one want to go to work every morning and even look forward to Monday's.  Because if you think about it, with a basic 9-5 you would spend most of your waking hours either at work, getting to work or going home."

As for the outfit, one way to look smaller or hide imperfect parts of your body is to opt for bigger clothes. As you know trousers are my go-to fit especially loose fitting pairs like palazzos. These trousers were last styled here for a date night look. Today, I simply went back to the basics and paired it with a striped top, I love the colour contrast in the dark blue and burgundy, don't you?

Are your working for the passion or money? How's it going? Are you searching for the 'more'in life? Can you relate to this post? Please share your thoughts.

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Lately, I've been quite interested in exploring Abuja and this includes places to eat, shop, things to do, cafes to visit and all that good stuff.

And over the weekend I had brunch at the Cube Art Cafe with fellow Abuja based blogger, Alexis of Shades of Alexis. We actually met during my NYSC service year in Calabar, Cross River State of where she is a native. This review post is also in collaboration with her so stop by her blog guys, seriously!

I had heard about or should I say seen a lot of the Cube Art Cafe, prior to my visit.  Lifestyle blogger, Mimi of Mimiosa was one of the people that influenced my decision to finally visit this spot. It's extra colourful wall outside is a favourite amongst not only bloggers but Abuja residents. So of course, I couldn't wait to check it out and I'm glad I did. Let's get right into my thoughts, shall we?

FOOD
I ordered a latte and paired it with a pan au chocolate which is just a fancy name for a chocolate croissant. My brother, who was our photographer of the day, got a burger and fries (which 
I tasted) with a smoothie of mango and pineapple. I'm more of a tea person but I enjoyed the latte while I found the croissant a little dry. The fries were good, crunchy with the right amount of salt.The burger was nice too, nothing spectacular simply a good old burger. My brother felt that the beef patty was perhaps too big for the bread. While I thought the portion size of the burger and fries could have been a bit bigger given the price. Alexis ordered a full english breakfast with the blend of the day, which some type of berries mixed with banana and milk.I thought the english breakfast was worth the for the price, she could barely finish it.

Cost breakdown in Naira:
Full English BreakFast: 3,000
Burger and Chips: 3,500
Mango and Pineapple Smoothie: 1,800
Blend of the Day: 1,800 
Iced Latte: 1,500
Hot Latte: 800

AMBIENCE
I'm all here for the ambience. Apparently, the owners of the cafe are both artists hence the creative display of artwork. It really is a dream for every creative, simply walking in got me inspired. The walls were covered with various works of art, there were also books and cool looking seats. There was a nice selection of songs (R&B, Soul) playing gently in the background which I loved. We were told they have games as well. It also has a quiet and calming atmosphere which would make great as a working place or spot to have a casual meeting or chat with the girls. I could live there!

PRICE
I'd say Cube Cafe is on the high side of affordable. The three of us spent a total of 11,200 with no additional service charge on the bill. The drinks were a tad higher than most places. Also for the burger and fries, the price was a bit high considering the portion especially compared to the burger and fries I had at Metro Cafe. It is however still possible to spend 5,000 for two people, you would probably just have to go with snacks as opposed to real food. 

CUSTOMER SERVICE
It's a big thumbs up for me on this. We were attended to by a lovely lady named Karen who made us feel at home while taking our orders with a smile on her face. This spot is definitely blogger friendly too as we were allowed to take pictures everywhere with no hassle at all (We spent almost 2 hours on and off). If only more places in Abuja or Nigeria, were cool like this because my going to this spot was influenced by the various pictures I had seen of it online. 



LOCATION
The Cube Cafe is somewhat hidden with its location at 16 Usuma Close, Maitama Abuja. One has to drive to the end of the street and enter a bigger gate as the cafe lies within the old Maitama Amusement Park. We almost thought google maps had failed us when we didn't spot the cafe immediately, so look out for a sign at the gate or the famous coloured wall of the cafe.
Photography by me and Victor Audu

Overall I had a beautiful time catching up with Alexis, we talked blogging, niches, life and more spots in Abuja. Would I go back, Yes, yes and yes! The Cube Cafe will definitely be one of my go-to spots in Abuja. I mean, how often does one find a blogger friendly spot, with aesthetic goals and great customer service in Abuja? Be sure to read up on Alexis thoughts of the Cube Cafe on here blog

The Cube Cafe is open from Tuesday -Saturday 10-8pm, Sun 1-6pm and closed on Monday. You can check them out on Instagram or Facebook

Ever been to the Cube Art Cafe? What were your thoughts? What did you order? Did you enjoy it? Also what spot would you like me to review next?

Giveaway Winner
First off, my apologies for the delay, and thank you to everyone who entered. The feedback has been helpful and I'm working on it. Congrats to Favour Ndukwe, please contact me to claim your prize. The winner was selected by a random name picker online so please no vexing. There will be more giveaways so stay tuned. 

Do you ever wonder what the world was like before the advent of social media? How did people live or even cope before the likes of Twitter, Facebook and Instagram? What was it like to live in a world where likes and comments didn't matter? What did people do when they wore a nice outfit or had a lot to say?

I guess they lived, huh? Although every advancement comes with both the good and bad, one has to wonder, "has social media done more harm than good?"

While on one hand, it has offered greater exposure, more opportunities to connect globally, increased knowledge and even jobs like mine (social media manager), but are the negatives outweighing the positives?

We've heard of cases of people putting up appearance and living fake lives as in the case of #Visababe, a blogger who is trending across social media. For those who are not aware, the blogger who portrays a luxurious lifestyle is pleading for visa funds to prevent her from being deported from the UK. While I understand where she's coming from, as in life and this creative industry, the more money you spend, the more opportunities and collaborations one can get, I'm not saying it's okay. And it's so easy to get carried away with that fake life while people looking in from the outside compare. Because it's easy to rate our lives based on the highlights of others. 

Social media has made a lot of us fall into the comparison trap ( I've been guilty too). The truth is, social media is not always a true reflection of a person's reality, one just has to remember not to get caught up.
What are your thoughts on this?

I've finally joined the bandwagon with this denim wrap top made by blogger Esther of The petiteremember our collab here? I paired my top with culottes styled here. The top costs only 6k, the fit is amazing, I especially love the sleeves and cropped look of the top. However, I do wish the rope was a bit shorter, I struggled with hiding the excess. Overall, I'm impressed and look forward to restyling this top. 

Top: The Petite || Culottes: Sammydress || Shoes: Zaful

Has social media done more harm than good? Have you ever fallen into the comparison trap? How did you cope? What are your thoughts on the #visababe situation?

Don't forget to enter my GIVEAWAY for a pair of shoes of your choice. 

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I've always been a big fan of graphic or inscription T-shirts. In fact, in my earlier style days, I had quite a collection of a variety of T-shirts. However, with adulthood and the embrace of my new style, I began to deviate from inscription T-shirt. Lately, I've been rediscovering my love for T-shirts hence this post. 

The great thing about T-shirts is that they can be styled up or down depending on an occasion and they are just perfect due to the simplicity associated with them. My minimalist T-shirt is made in Nigeria from Shop Nandra on Instagram. 

 This look which features my tassel sandals from Things Nigerians Love (TNL) and a pink peplum flared hem skirt, was my church flow yesterday. For some reason, probably my mom's 50th birthday, I felt the need to dress up a little more than I usually do. We went out for Thai food in Abuja, stay tuned for a review shortly. 

1. Simple way to upgrade your outfit
This outfit honestly felt incomplete at first until I plopped on this bag, added shades and lipstick. Talk about three quick ways to upgrade an outfit. 
2. Pull off a no-makeup look
With the exception of light foundation to cover my blemishes, I'm not wearing a full face of makeup but it works because of the shades and lipstick, so here's your tip to pulling off a barely-there makeup look.
3. Look Curvier
One way to appear curvier especially for my square shaped ladies, is to opt for a flared hem skirt. The tight fit on the waist will give the impression of a smaller waist while the flared hem gives off the illusion of a more curvier or fuller figure. On the rare occasion that I actually wear skirts, this fit is my go-to

Photography by Ruth Audu

Happy Easter beautiful people! I hope we were all able to get some rest and be productive as we reminisced on the true essence of the holidays. When Jesus Christ died for us, he gave us the power, victory and freedom over all death, sin, bondage, sickness. And I'm so thankful that we no longer have to sacrifice animals but we can freely come into his presence to worship. May we have the grace to never take his ultimate sacrifice for granted. 

Shirt: Shop Nandra || Shoes: TNL  || Skirt: Thrift 

GIVEWAY
To say a little thank you for all your support over the last years and in celebration of 10k followers on Instagram, I'll be giving away this pair of heels pictured in this outfit or any other pair of shoes of TNL

TO ENTER
1. Go to TNL and pick a pair of shoes Here
2. Comment Below telling me the size and shoe you want
3. Write one thing you like about my blog, one thing you'd like me to improve on and what more you'd like to see on here.
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The Giveaway is open Nationwide, shipping charges apply if you're based outside Abuja. The winner will be announced in my post on Friday, 6 April 2018.  Good luck and Thank you!

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