Words of Affirmation for You × Wheeniey Ahupa

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Hey beautiful, you're doing great you know. I just want to applaud you for pushing, for never giving up and most of all for continuing to believe despite all the odds. Now, I know that some days are tough, and sometimes you doubt, sometimes you think of all the bad and all the things that are not going right but I'm glad you keep trying. Keep going, don't stop and don't sell yourself short, you've got this! Everything wil be alright too, you might not believe this now but it will be. Nothing stays the same forever. Never stop pushing ya hear. Whenever you feel down, look in the mirror and say beautiful words of affirmation to yourself. Find things and people that make you happy too and soak it all in. You can trick your brain into believing whatever you want at the end of the day. 
As I put on this Wheeniey Ahupa dress, I couldn't help but feel beautiful. Sure there was that moment of pause as I tried to reconcile myself with these new curves as per the weight gain. But today I appreciate the little things like this lovely dress that makes one focus on all the good and beautiful things that make us happy in this life.
This lovely dress is by Wheeniey Ahupa. A made in Nigeria womens ready to wear brand based in Abuja. This dress is everything that a good pencil dress should be. A stunning burgundy colour (my favourite),  great fabric selection of a thick scuba material, simplicity of design and finishing too. The great thing about this dress is one doesn't have to worry about bra or panty lines due to the thick material plus it's surprisingly comfortable too. Can we talk about price, it costs 8,900, quite affordable, talk about value for money! The best part is that Wheeniey Ahupa is on sale! You can get 50% off all items including this dress which is going for 5,000 Naira. Don't say I didn't tell you. Tell her I sent you too or tag me! 

This post is sponsored by Wheeniey Ahupa.

Dress: Wheeniey Ahupa || Shoes: The Shoe Shop 

What makes you feel beautiful? How do you cope on rough days? What words do you affirm? Thoughts on the dress?

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Hey beautiful, you're doing great you know. I just want to applaud you for pushing, for never giving up and most of all for continuing to believe despite all the odds. Now, I know that some days are tough, and sometimes you doubt, sometimes you think of all the bad and all the things that are not going right but I'm glad you keep trying. Keep going, don't stop and don't sell yourself short, you've got this! Everything wil be alright too, you might not believe this now but it will be. Nothing stays the same forever. Never stop pushing ya hear. Whenever you feel down, look in the mirror and say beautiful words of affirmation to yourself. Find things and people that make you happy too and soak it all in. You can trick your brain into believing whatever you want at the end of the day. 
As I put on this Wheeniey Ahupa dress, I couldn't help but feel beautiful. Sure there was that moment of pause as I tried to reconcile myself with these new curves as per the weight gain. But today I appreciate the little things like this lovely dress that makes one focus on all the good and beautiful things that make us happy in this life.
This lovely dress is by Wheeniey Ahupa. A made in Nigeria womens ready to wear brand based in Abuja. This dress is everything that a good pencil dress should be. A stunning burgundy colour (my favourite),  great fabric selection of a thick scuba material, simplicity of design and finishing too. The great thing about this dress is one doesn't have to worry about bra or panty lines due to the thick material plus it's surprisingly comfortable too. Can we talk about price, it costs 8,900, quite affordable, talk about value for money! The best part is that Wheeniey Ahupa is on sale! You can get 50% off all items including this dress which is going for 5,000 Naira. Don't say I didn't tell you. Tell her I sent you too or tag me! 

This post is sponsored by Wheeniey Ahupa.

Dress: Wheeniey Ahupa || Shoes: The Shoe Shop 

What makes you feel beautiful? How do you cope on rough days? What words do you affirm? Thoughts on the dress?

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I find that the older you get, the more important it is for you to have a good network of people. Afterall, as is often said "you are only as good as the network of people you have." Now how does one build a good network?

Well, over the weekend, I attended the She Leads Africa, Lafiya Lifestyle Expo held at the Sarius Palmetum Botanical Garden in Maitama Abuja, during which I attended a session by She Leads co-founder, Afua Osei on how to build your network and get the most out of networking events. I picked up five tips which I will be sharing in this post.

1. Know Your Personality Type
The most common mistake we make when it comes to networking is going about it the wrong way for our personality. We all relate and connect differently with people based on our personality type, hence it's important to, first of all, identify what type, whether introvert, extrovertambivert and figure out what works best for you. An example Afua gave was noting that she was an introvert hence at events she usually targets smaller groups or looks out for individuals just hanging around. 

2. An Elevator Pitch
An elevator pitch basically answers in as little words as possible, who you are, what you do, why it matters, and why it's different. The main takeaway with this is to make sure you put first, that one line that people will easily remember you for. I've always felt pretty confident and thought I had my pitch down to some extent but after the session I realized I need more practice and research too. Thus I put out a question asking why you follow me on Instagram and the responses have been so helpful and I think I've got it down so here goes my elevator pitch...

"My name is Sarah Audu, I teach women how to be fully covered and still fly in the 21st Century. I do this through my website and social media platforms where I also use my personal style and lifestyle as mediums to talk about my faith and various thoughts on social issues". 

How did I do?


3. Create Value
The question we should all be asking ourselves is "how can we add value to the people around us?" More common than not, some us of us seek people for what they can do for us rather than what we can do for them. Now if you've ever been in such a position you'd agree that your immediate instinct is to write off such people who we call gum-body people in Nigeria and opportunist in English.  So what's your selling point or something unique about you? For businesses, if you're in an industry where everyone is doing the same thing, you have to find something that will differentiate you. 

4. Build a Platform
Find a way or place to put yourself out there. There are several ways to sell yourself. You could hop on social media sites like Twitter, LinkedIn and Instagram which are all great places to meet people and sell yourself. As a blogger, I sell myself through my website and social media platforms. Also, invest in yourself and what you offer before telling people about it.
Bonus Tip
If you're a woman struggling with how to deal with annoying men that always want more than a business relationship (and you're not interested), here are a few things to note
  •  Be upfront and decline the offer.
  •  Joke about it and laugh it off.
  • Bring into the picture, a male figure like a boyfriend or husband as most respectable men would back off when the presence of another man is evident.
  • Keeps things as professional as possible by avoiding late-night calls, chats or being overly friendly, thus you might want to stay off a first name basis with some people and keep it at "Mr...". 

 As for the overall event. I had a worthwhile time and I'm glad I had an opportunity to reconnect with fellow bloggers and learn a few new things plus explore a new spot in Abuja. I hung out with Onyinye of Modavracha, for the most part of the event, she had a refreshing mindset about blogging which was quite different from most bloggers and she took my picture is this post. 
As this is still afterall a fashion blog, see below for the few shots I took of other people's outfits during the event.
Meanwhile, if you'd like to read more about the event check out posts by  Oyinye of Modavracha and Amaka of  Mind of Amaka

Do you have an elevator pitch? I'd love to hear it, please share. Let's critique ourselves and learn together.


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When talking about natural skin care brands Made here in Nigeria, the list is never complete without the inclusion of a brand called Arami Essentials but are the products really worth the hype?

I first came across Arami Essentials from a post on Cassie Daves blog followed by several social media hypes and a review by Tukes Quest and  Iamyeychi. Following my resolution to take better care of my skin in 2018, I decided to try out their products. So here are my thoughts after almost three months of using them.

I ordered the Onyx Body Polish and Glow Oil Sweet Oud through The Beauty Bar Ng in Abuja. Thus I saved on shipping costs from Lagos which is usually my biggest issue with shopping online outside Abuja. The glow oil cost 2,800 and onyx polish 3,000. Thanks to Mind of Amaka for the connect, however sadly they no longer have the products in stock.

First Impression.
For some reason, the products looked a lot smaller than I had expected, oh well. I was also quite surprised to discover that the Body Polish was a basic black soap but just a bit pricer. As for the Glow Oil, the smell was amazing! Now let's go deeper.

Onyx Body Polish

As noted earlier this is basically just African black soap. The ingredients as seen below are standard. For the application, I would just wet my face and take a little amount (a little goes a long way), apply on my face and it would lather so well. The soap had a bit of a drying effect on my oily skin though. As a cheapskate, I only applied the product on my face at first but over time I began using this on my entire body. And it lasted me for almost three months of usually taking a bath twice a day.

Glow Oil
A lightweight type of oil made from raw shea nut oil. It smells so good Y'all. However, it tastes bitter lol (don't ask me why I know this ). When I initially started using it, I broke out in slight pimples. Over time, however,  it served as a great moisturizer especially after the drying effect of the soap. Another thing I noticed about the oil was that it drys fast especially in other parts of the Body. However, a little of this product goes a long way too. My face generally retained the moisture though.
Packaging
Impressive, I loved the simplicity of it.

Price
I initially thought it was expensive but seeing how far the products took me, well I say that's good value for money. My Glow Oil is still half way and I use it almost twice a day every day.


Results
In the few months of use, I noticed that my face began brighter and lighter. The acne scars started fading slightly, my skin got smoother and the pores smaller too, which I also attribute to my more regular exfoliating with my all time favorite scrub, the Oriflame Milk and Honey Sugar Scrub. I kept getting comments on my skin improving (mostly from family).

Note
I wear makeup about seven times in a month, less or more at times which usually consists of light foundation and powder. I do not wash my makeup brushes as often as I should (covers face). Besides washing my face with soap (without a sponge), applying oil and sometimes vaseline and the occasional scrub, I did not and do not have a proper skin care routine or product selection prior this purchase. My skin type is oily with slight acne scarring and visible pores, made bigger when wearing makeup.
All pictures were taken by me

So is this product worth the hype? Yes, of course, I plan to put in another order for the Onyx Polish. However I've been using Dudu Osun black soap (N200) with the Glow Oil and it seems to be working just fine, so we'll see because my cheapskate self is reasoning here.
Check out their website or Instagram page for more details.

Have you used products by Arami Essentials before? What was your experience or your favourite? Would you say it's worth the hype? What is your current favourite natural skincare brand?

I'll end with this point of concern guys. A lot of "Natual Skincare" made in Nigeria brands seem to be cropping up these days, one really needs to be careful. Because there's no agency checking or endorsing most products, if not for the reviews, I wouldn't have dared to try these products as I'm very skeptical when it comes to trying new skincare products.

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I had wanted to talk about how to style retro vintage shirts or rave about the rare occasion that I wear denim skinny jeans. Talking about my current favorite mustard block mules was also on my mind. But today on Sarah Speaks, I share one of my struggles with you. Keep reading, here goes...
 I had expected God to come through for me, waited even, after all he always did. Year after year, I wrote this one thing down as my prayer request, list after list but nothing. I had expected him to do his thing like he usually does, after all he did it for others, I heard similar testimony after testimony hence I waited.

Waiting turned to waiting and then I got so tired, tired of praying, tired of writing, tired of believing. And as my faith waned as I wondered, "God where are you". Praying became harder, bible reading non-existent. There I was going through the motions, attending church on Sunday, weekly services in between and the usual family devotion but I felt so far away from God. 

 I gave up, thoughts of "why me" kept circling my mind. I gave up and then the anger set in. I was angry at God. It was hard to believe. I knew he was there but I was mad that he didn't come through for me this time. I didn't understand.


Yes I know "his ways are not my ways" but it was hard. Yes I know "his thoughts are not my thoughts" (Isaiah 55:8) but where was God? And then I looked into my own wisdom, relied on me and the human thing to do as well. God, where are you, why me?
Photography by Blessing Audu

It was hard, still hard. Sometimes I doubt my faith even. Writing this makes me sad too but I remember what a friend said.

"So God didn't come through for you this one time, what about all the other things he's done? You have a lot to be thankful for". Which is true but it's so easy to forget all the other blessings and answered prayers when faced with difficult situations and seemingly unanswered prayers. It's a constant struggle with the faith but I'm reminded of this if you only believe in the good times, then where's your faith?

Today I remember and hold onto all the times God had come through for me, and it is indeed way too many, even more than I deserve. It's still a struggle but now I see how silly I was. Now I hold onto Jeremiah 29:11 and wait till he comes through as I count my blessing. 

I decided to share this to hopefully remind someone out there that you're not alone. Keep on believing, it's not easy but if not God, who else then?  Have you been in such a place? How did you handle an unanswered prayer? 

Shirt, Denim: Thrift || Mules: ShopRBJ

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Wheather you're trying to stand out, let your clothes do the talking or make your outfit a lot more interesting, bold colours are it. 
Today in collaboration with Didi of  Cutey Prexy, we are embracing one of 2018's summer fashion trend, bold colours. Back in the day in 2014 pairing contrasting colours in a trend called Colour Blocking was all the rage. I mean everyone and their mama was throwing colours together.

For me, styling bold colours like red and mustard have always been my go-to when it comes down to fashion, be it an unconscious move or perhaps my modest style, I often find myself drawn to them.

However, when it comes down to styling bold colours it would seem that a lot of us are shy or unsure of how to. Perhaps it boils down to what colours to pair or what colours may flatter but it really is that simple and I broke it down in this post. Today, we'll be talking about why you should wear more bold colours.


1. Make a Fashion Statement 
If you're trying to be the centre of attention, then you'd want to incorporate more bold colours. Pairing bold colours can even be a conversation starter as well.

2. Make Your Clothes More Interesting
Clothes have a tendency to get boring especially if your style is somewhat basic or modest like mine. Now one way I make my outfit pairing more interesting is to opt for more colours which do the trick always as some of my best/favourite looks always feature loud colours.

3. So Flattering on Melanin
A simple fact really, bold colours are just so flattering on melanin, enough said. Not to sound biased though, bold colours also look great on other skin tones as well but be sure to find the best-suited colours for your skin tone. 

Photography by Blessing Audu

In today's post Didi and I channeled summer vibes. Now, while Didi opted for a crochet fashionnova two-piece crop top and flared pants set paired with a straw bag, I went for a floral styled kimono top paired with a pair of pants and belted over in the waist. I love that fact that we both opted for mustard mules which complemented both of our looks don't you think?

Mules: ShopRBJ

Are you a fan of bold colours? What are some of you're favourite colours or combinations?

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