GALENTINES VALENTINES DAY + LAST MINUTE STYLE GUIDE

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How about a Galentines Valentine's day for all my ladies! Valentine's Day for so long has always been just for lovers, for all my people with boo's and baes. And I never got to celebrate with boo lol. While I wasn't bothered about the whole thing I always thought "aww, it would be nice to get a rose (even though I don't like flowers) or chocolate and even a little note".
  Valentine's day is so much more than just a day to be romantic though . And today I'm celebrating it Galentines style with my fellow abuja bloggers Bella of Iambrownie.com and Esther of Thepetite. Valentine's day is a day to show more love . You could go to an orphanage and show love to the less privileged.  Also a day/night out with the girls is perfect too. 

As per fashion bloggers, we all went with a touch of red. Bella stole the show with a simple Ankara dress (I  love that hemlime detail too) and strappy shoes which I recommended (girl I was right). Esther kept it simple and classic in a black and white outfit which she made herself (I'm blown away). Loved her pop of red too.
Bella of Iambrownie.com
  Esther of Thepetite
 I opted for burgundy and nude in a monochrome outfit. This look for me is comfy and free with a turtle neck crop to show of your shoulders and a nice pair of Palazzo trousers for comfort. If you're going out and are still not sure what to wear then I got you!

Last Minute Style Guide 
1. Think basics
2. Opt for black and white with a pop of red just like Esther. You can never go wrong with monochrome 
3. A little black dress (LBD) is as easy as it gets.
4. A pair of jeans with a classy top. Think sequins, lace or patterns.
5. Opt for Strappy sandals like Bella, it's a great way to spice up any look
6. An off shoulder top paired with a body-con skirt or flared trousers. 
6. Lastly a pink or red dress of course!

Hope you found these tips helpful 


Head over to Bella and Esther's blog for their take on what Valentines Day means to them plus some tips on how to celebrate too. 
Credits to our photographer Valentine of Wayt Fashion for these amazing shots.  Ironic huh, a valentines day shot with Valentine. 

Top: Bershka || Trousers: Rayhz for 4k|| Shoes: Zaful 

What's your take on Valentines day? Would you go Galentines style or nah? How are you celebrating too?
How about a Galentines Valentine's day for all my ladies! Valentine's Day for so long has always been just for lovers, for all my people with boo's and baes. And I never got to celebrate with boo lol. While I wasn't bothered about the whole thing I always thought "aww, it would be nice to get a rose (even though I don't like flowers) or chocolate and even a little note".
  Valentine's day is so much more than just a day to be romantic though . And today I'm celebrating it Galentines style with my fellow abuja bloggers Bella of Iambrownie.com and Esther of Thepetite. Valentine's day is a day to show more love . You could go to an orphanage and show love to the less privileged.  Also a day/night out with the girls is perfect too. 

As per fashion bloggers, we all went with a touch of red. Bella stole the show with a simple Ankara dress (I  love that hemlime detail too) and strappy shoes which I recommended (girl I was right). Esther kept it simple and classic in a black and white outfit which she made herself (I'm blown away). Loved her pop of red too.
Bella of Iambrownie.com
  Esther of Thepetite
 I opted for burgundy and nude in a monochrome outfit. This look for me is comfy and free with a turtle neck crop to show of your shoulders and a nice pair of Palazzo trousers for comfort. If you're going out and are still not sure what to wear then I got you!

Last Minute Style Guide 
1. Think basics
2. Opt for black and white with a pop of red just like Esther. You can never go wrong with monochrome 
3. A little black dress (LBD) is as easy as it gets.
4. A pair of jeans with a classy top. Think sequins, lace or patterns.
5. Opt for Strappy sandals like Bella, it's a great way to spice up any look
6. An off shoulder top paired with a body-con skirt or flared trousers. 
6. Lastly a pink or red dress of course!

Hope you found these tips helpful 


Head over to Bella and Esther's blog for their take on what Valentines Day means to them plus some tips on how to celebrate too. 
Credits to our photographer Valentine of Wayt Fashion for these amazing shots.  Ironic huh, a valentines day shot with Valentine. 

Top: Bershka || Trousers: Rayhz for 4k|| Shoes: Zaful 

What's your take on Valentines day? Would you go Galentines style or nah? How are you celebrating too?
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Ever been in situations where you were unsure of whether to keep trusting God for a miracle or move on to reality and embrace man's help?

Well, I once read of a man who in his faith sowed his last money hoping to get blessed and nothing happened but another man sowed just a little of what he had and the blessings he got were out of this world.  I also read about a woman who died during child birth because she refused to have a C-section as recommended by the doctors. Why? Well she believed in her pastors decree that she would deliver through a natural birth like the Israelite women in the bible. In the same vein, I was blown away by the testimony of a woman who was healed of cancer right at the moment when all hope was lost and she was about to die.

What's the point with these stories? Well, the people in the above scenarios, faced a point where they had to either believe in God or focus on the reality of things. However, some of the acts of faith ended so tragically which makes me wonder, when do we as Christians draw the line between our faith and embrace reality? When is it time to embrace man-made help. Is there ever really a time for that though?

What was the difference between these people that some were delivered while others weren't. Yes, the Bible makes us to understand that God is God all by himself and he will show mercy to whom he chooses to show mercy to but then when do we know when to draw that line? When do we know to move on to man made help while still looking unto God for intervention? Is it even possible to look to both places at once? 

Now, what does the bible say about faith? Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen (Hebrews 11:1 KJV). Which is basically rephrased as wishing or hoping for invisible/unseen things to be made a reality. And Jesus tells us with faith as small as a mustard seed, we can move mountains (Luke 17:6) . Now have you ever seen a mustard seed? Well it's soooo small guys, meaning small faith can take you places. But what happens when that mustard seed faith doesn't move those mountains? 

Yes we've been taught and know that at the end of the day, God's plan triumphs over everything. And sometimes, a closed door or a no is God's way of preserving us or working on better for us (Isaiah 55:8). But how do know when to stop believing on a miracle and trust that it may be God's plan as we move on to face the music? How do we know when to accept that the 'no' may be God's plan?
Photography by Victor Audu

Now, the christian-me knows I should put my total faith, hope and confidence in God because well that's mustard seed faith and he shows up most especially when we make him our one and only option. But the human-side of me, slightly wonders what if this doesn't happen or God doesn't come through? That same human side even considers a Plan B. But then wouldn't having a plan B contradict that mustard seed faith? After all, when you put total trust in something and in this case God, why the question of what if?

And at the same time, faith without works is dead.  For example, you can't trust God for a job and sit at home praying while expecting God to miraculously do it. We've got to put in the work. But at the same time what happens when you hustle, work towards better opportunities, have that mustard seed faith and nothing comes from it then what? Do we accept that it's God's plan and move on or do we keep faithing it? Do we face reality and try something else? Where do we draw the line?

Yes wisdom is profitable to direct, but you'll admit with me that faith doesn't always make sense to the human eye and that's why it's called faith! At the end of the day though, I take comfort in this bible verse "they looked to him, and were radiant and their faces shall never be covered with shame" (Psalm 34:5)

I've had these thoughts on my mind for so long as I tried to rephrase it and even understand better. So today it's not so much about me speaking but me asking. I'd love to know your thoughts and revelations on this? Let's learn and grow together. Hence, what are your thoughts guys? Let's discuss!

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Thrift shopping in Abuj,a Nigeria is definitely possible contrary to popular belief. Sure you might not get the same experience or buys as in Lagos but if you go to the right places, you can equally get dope items at a bargain or reasonable price.

 Speaking of thrifting, it's still weird to think that back in the day, no one would ever tell you if they were wearing Okrika or bend down select (thrifted) clothes. But now with the whole push for affordable fashion, thrifting is the new in-thing especially when bloggers like Grace of Gafashion and Ifeoma of Draped in Basics show you how it's done. Now, today, I'll be listing out six places where one can thrift in Abuja, the kind of items you'd get and price ranges too. Let's begin!


1. Wuse Market
In all honesty, Wuse Market is not the most affordable place to thrift in Abuja.It is however, my go-to spot because of the non-hassle aspect of the market. The sellers and trades are calmer, the atmosphere is comfortable and neat too. In most cases, clothes are sold in brick and mortar shops and are mostly hung for display. Also I love the quality of the items sold, the variety and it's my go-to place for my thrift/vintage high waist trousers. 

You can get shirts between 1,000-1,500 Naira ($3-$5) and bottoms like skirts and trousers could go for between 1,500-3,000 ($3-$6) depending on the trader and your bargaining skills. It's also a good place to get your denim staples like mom jeans and denim jackets. I recently went thrifting there, got a few items which I displayed on my Instagram page and stories, I can't wait to show you guys how I style the items. Market days are everyday but in my experience they bring new things out every Friday and Tuesday afternoon. 

Red skirt cost 1,500 ($4) from Wuse Market 

2. Garki Market
This spot like Wuse Market, is also not the most affordable spot to shop. However quality and brand-new looking items are guaranteed. You also get some of the trendiest pieces and a vaster array of clothes from foreign brands like Zara, H&M, Forever 21. The few times I went there, I was blown away. Price range is similar to that of Wuse Market. Now, I'm not sure of the best day to go but Saturday works just fine. 


3. Nyanya Market
This is right on the outskirts of Abuja, before heading to Nassarawa State. This used to be one of my go-to spot to thrift in the past but disturbances from law enforcement, has greatly reduced the market size. For the most part, prices are affordable but it ranges based on the seller and item being sold. In fact I got my favorite pair of culottes (styled here, herehere and here) from there over three years ago for 300 Naira ($0.8) only, back when the exchange rate was friendlier. The market day is Wednesday but they are still fully open on Saturday too. I've actually gotten a lot of my favourite retro shirts there, like this one which costs 700 Naira ($2).

4. Maraba/ Nassarawa State
If you're feeling up to it, another spot to check out is Maraba or Masaka Market, which is basically Nassarawa State. I know it sounds far but trust me, it really isn't. Just 200 Naira will take you there on a BRT bus from Berger bus stop. Prices there are super cheap too. I've only made it there once and I honestly didn't enjoy it. The wahala (hassle) of the market was not for me. But you can get items there for as low as 300 Naira ($0.8) and even lower too. The market day is on Sunday but traders do sell on Saturday too. 

5. Karimo Market 
Now, I've never been to this place, but several bloggers like Grace have sworn by it. I'd imagine based on perception this will be a hassle-filled market. So if you're not about that stress life then this place is not for you but if you like a good bargain and don't mind a little stress then check it out. Also, Demi Akin got these pants from Karimo Market for only just 400 ($1.25) Naira, I was too shocked to even talk. The market day is Tuesday. 
Blogger Grace, in fishnet tights which cost 100 Naira ($.04)

6. Dutse Market 
Last but not least, Dutse Market which I've been to just once. I stopped by after Modavracha talked about getting dope inexpensive bags there. I was however really disappointed as the market was so small and there was practically nothing there, at least not clothes. There weren't many options either but perhaps I went on the wrong day? I however got a basic black bag for 1,000 ($3) but would I go back again? Probably not. Anyways market days are on Mondays. 

Let's not forget that you can thrift almost anywhere, especially at major bus stops or areas and prices are usually cheaper. I remember getting my new favourite blazer styled here and here for just 700 Naira ($2) and I was on my way to church. So keep your eyes open!


Thrifting Tips
1. Keep your mind open for possibilities.
2. Don't be too carried away by the affordability that you buy things you wont wear.
3. Try on everything! Seriously guys especially buttoms like pants. So make sure you dress in comfy smaller clothes.
4. Always and I repeat always check for rips, tears, loose buttons etc because some flaws are not fixable.
5. Avoid thrifting at night, you need the full light to avoid purchasing clothes that either look old or washed in the day time.
6. It may be thrift clothes but they should not look old or well worn so think twice before purchasing some cheaper items.

Do you thrift? Where do you thrift in your city? What has been your best or favourite thrift item so far? Have you been to any of these places? Please share your experience.What other places do you thrift shop in Abuja?

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Mom jeans are such closet staples in everyone's wardrobe. It's quite interesting really, how something synonymous to moms looking somewhat unattractive, has somehow taken the fashion world by storm. Now, I don't know about you but I really don't mind. I'm all for modest and comfy fashion which is why mom jeans have become my go-to fit. I've even tossed my skinny jeans aside and put this pair on repeat. And today I'll be showing you three ways to style your jeans from retro, to weekend ready and corporate casual. 

My mom jeans were a thrift buy from the Vintage Closet 9ja, based in Abuja. It only cost me 4,000 naira ($10). However, for cheaper bargains take a trip to Wuse Market and thrift a pair for half the amount I spent. These jeans have previously been styled here and here


Look 1
I decided to go for a retro look which was inspired  by Grace of Gafashion actually. I simply wore my vintage shirt (styled here) backwards and opted for block heels. This look would work great with sneakers too and make for a perfect weekend look. I'd most likely wear this to a casual get together with friends or even a lunch date. 


Jeans: Vintage Closet 9ja || Shoes:Shoe Shop Nigeria (tell her I sent you) || Bag: Asian Site (can't remember) || Shirt: Thrift || Shade: Zaful


                                  Look 2
This look is my typical weekend style, a kimono (styled herewhich offers a relaxed fit and my mules for comfort. It's quite interesting how much I hated mules before and even wanted them to be left in 2014 but look at me now. This look feature two pieces made by Nigerian designers, the Kimono orginally part of a two piece set and the mules. I'd wear this to run errands or to a casual outing. A simple change of shoes to heels would instantly dress up the look. Also removing the kimono and only opting for the singlet would make for a date night look especially with the addition of strap sandals. 

Jeans: Vintage Closet 9ja || Kimono: Salamay  || Bag: Gamiss || Mules: Oyin Lagos use code SBAM 


                                  Look 3
I opted for a smart casual look by pairing closet  basic essentials like white shirt, vest previously styled as a as dress here and red pumps. Depending on where you work, this could make a good smart casual look. You could always opt for a proper blazer and it will instantly make this look even more dressy.

Jeans:  Vintage Closet 9ja || Vest: Thrif  || Shirt: Tinapa Buy || Shoes: Zara || Bag: Unknown 

Photography by Ruth Audu

Other ways to style your mom jeans would be to pair it with a graphic shirt like I did here or opt for an off shoulder top for a more flirty look. What is your favorite look and why? Did you enjoy or find this post helpful? 

One of my goals for this year is to create more look books so please let me know guys, as such posts take more time to create too. What item would you like me to style next?

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Every lady wants to find that perfect dress that's best suited to flatter one's body but to do this one must first of all understand what works best for your body type, the do's and don't's so we can all kill it! 
pencil dress, orange, midi dress, body con dress, cinched waist
pencil dress, orange, midi dress, body con dress, cinched waist
pencil dress, orange, midi dress, body con dress, cinched waist
While there are different body types when it comes to fashion as we have the pear shaped, square shaped, rectangle, the hour glass, inverted triangle body type, I won't be focusing on this as a lot of people tend to get confused. I actually will be going further to break it down by the specific traits. Though, Tee of Dive in to Mauve has a perfect post on dressing for your body type which I highly recommend. 

Broad Shoulders
Opt for dresses with drama at the bottom to draw attention away and create an equalizing effect for your upper and lower body. So that would mean flared peplum hem dresses, flared/pleated or even A-line dress. Also if you must go for off shoulder tops, go for something that has drama at the top so think ruffles too. The goal is to distract from those shoulders. You can always opt for dresses that fit looser at the top too just like mine in this look.

Small Boobs
If you're not blessed up there, no biggie. Opt for clothes that have lots of drama at the top. Think ruffles and all that good stuff. You could always invest in a good push up bra or better yet opt for turtle neck dresses.

Petite Ladies
For my small ladies, it’s important to choose dresses that will elongate your body. Hence avoid awkward lengths like maxi dresses which could make you look shorter. You'd want a dress that is a couple inches below the knee or mid knee length.  Anything a few inches above your ankle will make you super short too. A classic waterfall length dress would work amazingly well. 


pencil dress, orange, midi dress, body con dress, cinched waist
pencil dress, orange, midi dress, body con dress, cinched waist

Tummy/ Food Baby crew
If you're like me and you have a little tummy here are a few tips. Opt for dresses that draw attention away from your waist. So think shift dresses which are perfect for all body types, A-line and Flared dresses too. Ruched dresses and peplum dresses are your best bet too, trust me. And also dresses that are slightly looser at the waist. Finally, any dress with a belt detail is perfect because it draws attention to the belt which covers your tummy, makes sense?

Straight/Less curvy
If you're not as curvy, no problem. Stick to fits that define your waist and go with lots of drama too. You'd want to try flared or A-line dresses. Also anything oversize like a shift dress will be super flattering on you. A nice peplum dress will also give you the appearance of more curves too.

Curvy Ladies
For my ladies who want to display those curves, pencil dresses are just that for you. However if you're trying to draw attention away from them, then opt for a shift dress, A-line dress or Flared dress. Also peplum dresses are great for covering your bum. If you have bigger breasts and want to hide them (like me) then stay away from turtle neck dresses because it’ll draw more attention to them, v-necklines or round necklines are your thing in this case.

That's not to say all these tips must be followed. Go with what works for you and what you feel more comfortable with.
pencil dress, orange, midi dress, body con dress, cinched waist
pencil dress, orange, midi dress, body con dress, cinched waist
Now, lets talk about this outfit and the deception of online shopping. I'm a big advocate of shopping online due to the stress saving factor especially in Nigeria where markets are filled with men either pulling your hand, trying to flirt or business men/women (mostly men) trying to force you to purchase from them (it's by force O).

However, as pretty as this dress looks in pictures, it's a total disappointment to what was advertised online and the reality. I actually purchased it on Konga Fashion during the black Friday Sale. Having realized my lack of formal dresses thanks to my mom who keeps pointing it out,  I thought to get more but boy was I disappointed. The orange turned out to be an awful neon shade which looked even worse as per the poor quality fabric. Being that as it may though, I love the style/fit of the dress which I actually wore backwards. I'm honestly not a big fan of body-con or pencil dresses but the loose sleeves and belt which cinch in my waist sold me. 

The order came days later than excepted and the return process was stressful hence I kept the dress and figured why not get an outfit post out of it. I also plan to use the dress as a sample, purchase different fabrics and give to me tailor to replicate the design. Oh well, this is exactly one of my problems with some Made in Nigeria products hence my rant here. The last photo explains the look on face when I saw the dress (sigh).

Did you find this post helpful? Have you ever shopped online and been dissapointed? Please share you're experience, let's all learn together.


Dress: Konga here (if interested) || Shoes: Zalora Thailand

This top is currently on sale for 2,000 Naira get it here I'm thinking of getting it in pink, thoughts?

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