Street-style with Jumia Nigeria + Reality of Growing Up in a Big Family #siblingtag

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There are certain truths that are quite unique to have a big family. Now having five siblings and then being one of the eldest made growing up interesting. Today in collaboration with my siblings I'm spilling all the tea on the truths of growing up with lots of siblings. My brother Victor and I styled street-style looks with key basic from Jumia Nigeria while my sister Ruth was behind the lens taking pictures hence the inspiration behind this post. Let's begin

1. You are never alone
This is both a good or bad thing depending on your personality. Truth is when you have siblings, there is always someone to annoy you or in my case to annoy. This is great because it's fun but I remember moments wanting to have some personal space to have a private phone call or just be on my own; sharing a room with my sisters does not help either. P.s with this point, impromptu casual family meetings and discussions are a norm, it can be annoying but I love it.

2. Help is always available
Have an idea? Need a second opinion or a helping hand? That's where siblings come in. I rarely lift heavy stuff, I just call on my brothers. I don't pound yam or handle tasks like turning on the generator either. You never realized how handy having a sister is until you cant unzip your clothes or even zip up. And as a blogger, my siblings are a big help. Ruth takes about 90% of my pictures and seeing as I can't drive, Victor drives me to my shoot locations. Being the eldest has it's an advantage when everyone is older. I no longer have to slave over house chores, I get to delegate to the younger ones (insert laugh of glee)

3. Parenting is different
It's interesting to see the way my parents raised my younger sibling çompared to the upbringing of myself and the elders or should I say the first children. During my time, things like having a boy come visit would get you a lecture. Hey, I had a curfew too but things are so different now. Guess parents become lax with old age. 

Photography by Ruth Audu

4. Food thefts are a norm
One of the most annoying things with having a big family is that good food never lasts because there are too many mouths. And sometimes you hide food, plan towards it only to realize that it's gone because someone ate it (cries in memories). I remember one time, my parents kept buying cornflakes and it would finish in the blink of an eye with certain people eating more than others. Lol, you know what my mom did? She bought a box for each of us. It was funny at the time but very realistic actually. I've learned to hide my favourite goodies or eat while I see the good stuff.

Being part of a big family has been fun for the most part and I wouldn't change it. I'd love for my kids to have to same but the thought of giving birth so many times, stresses me out.
 How many siblings do you have? Did you grow up in a big family? What was it like? Can you relate to any of my points?

 I had so much fun shooting with my brother, who knew he would eventually grow to love pictures. We really need to do this more often because he's a natural, don't you think?

Sweatshirt: Jumia Nigeria (here) || Skirt: Virtue Clothiers (here) || Shoes: Zara (Here)|| Good Vibes Shirt: Jumia Nigeria (here)


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There are certain truths that are quite unique to have a big family. Now having five siblings and then being one of the eldest made growing up interesting. Today in collaboration with my siblings I'm spilling all the tea on the truths of growing up with lots of siblings. My brother Victor and I styled street-style looks with key basic from Jumia Nigeria while my sister Ruth was behind the lens taking pictures hence the inspiration behind this post. Let's begin

1. You are never alone
This is both a good or bad thing depending on your personality. Truth is when you have siblings, there is always someone to annoy you or in my case to annoy. This is great because it's fun but I remember moments wanting to have some personal space to have a private phone call or just be on my own; sharing a room with my sisters does not help either. P.s with this point, impromptu casual family meetings and discussions are a norm, it can be annoying but I love it.

2. Help is always available
Have an idea? Need a second opinion or a helping hand? That's where siblings come in. I rarely lift heavy stuff, I just call on my brothers. I don't pound yam or handle tasks like turning on the generator either. You never realized how handy having a sister is until you cant unzip your clothes or even zip up. And as a blogger, my siblings are a big help. Ruth takes about 90% of my pictures and seeing as I can't drive, Victor drives me to my shoot locations. Being the eldest has it's an advantage when everyone is older. I no longer have to slave over house chores, I get to delegate to the younger ones (insert laugh of glee)

3. Parenting is different
It's interesting to see the way my parents raised my younger sibling çompared to the upbringing of myself and the elders or should I say the first children. During my time, things like having a boy come visit would get you a lecture. Hey, I had a curfew too but things are so different now. Guess parents become lax with old age. 

Photography by Ruth Audu

4. Food thefts are a norm
One of the most annoying things with having a big family is that good food never lasts because there are too many mouths. And sometimes you hide food, plan towards it only to realize that it's gone because someone ate it (cries in memories). I remember one time, my parents kept buying cornflakes and it would finish in the blink of an eye with certain people eating more than others. Lol, you know what my mom did? She bought a box for each of us. It was funny at the time but very realistic actually. I've learned to hide my favourite goodies or eat while I see the good stuff.

Being part of a big family has been fun for the most part and I wouldn't change it. I'd love for my kids to have to same but the thought of giving birth so many times, stresses me out.
 How many siblings do you have? Did you grow up in a big family? What was it like? Can you relate to any of my points?

 I had so much fun shooting with my brother, who knew he would eventually grow to love pictures. We really need to do this more often because he's a natural, don't you think?

Sweatshirt: Jumia Nigeria (here) || Skirt: Virtue Clothiers (here) || Shoes: Zara (Here)|| Good Vibes Shirt: Jumia Nigeria (here)


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Abuja blogger style ankara dresses
Abuja blogger style ankara dresses
Abuja blogger style ankara dresses
Abuja blogger style ankara dresses
Look who's back on the blog again, that's right Opeyemi's Diary. Opeyemi is no stranger on here recall our previous collaborations below.


This time we got together to style ankara dresses from Mayrush, a made in Nigeria ready-to-wear brand that specializes in more affordable ankara pieces. For example, both our dresses are below N10,000 which is way more affordable compared to others. I love the fact that we both opted for slingback pointed pumps when styling our ankara dresses too.
Abuja blogger style ankara dresses
Abuja blogger style ankara dresses
Abuja blogger style ankara dresses
Abuja blogger style ankara dresses
Abuja blogger style ankara dresses
Photography by Ruth Audu

 The term "blogger friend" is often used loosely in the industry to refer to a person's friend who is a blogger or a content creator. So here's the thing about blogger friendships:

1. Your Network is your Networth
The importance of having friends in the industry cannot be overemphasized. For one thing, it exposes to you several opportunities. Personally, I have been privileged to have met some amazing people who have connected me with amazing opportunities like working with brands. Sometimes it's the people you know or people that know you that make the difference. Having great content is good but not always enough. 

2. They Understand the struggle
The truth is it's much easier for a person in the industry to understand some of the issues you face and even offer solutions. It's hard out there so having people you can consult or learn from makes life easier. For example, when not sure of how much to charge a brand, I reach out to people in the industry who have more knowledge or prior experience.

3. They inspire
Certain people can inspire you to work harder, or even bring concepts to life. What's that saying," two heads are better than one".

4. However
One has to be careful oh. The industry is quite saturated but small in a sense. Some people are not genuine and just want to gumbody or have ulterior motives, I have met some amazing people in this blogging thing but previous experiences have taught me to be cautious. 

My brother asked me why I always work with Opeyemi and I basically said, we work well together, vibe well and I like her genuineness. And as you can tell from our collaborations, it's always fun times, good laughs and great talks. A pleasure doing this with you girl, let's do it again. 

What are your thoughts on blogger friendships?

Head over to Opeyemi's blog, she wrote an inciteful post on going beyond the hashtag or catchphrase of Women Supporting women 

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colour block work look
colour block work look
colour block work look
colour block work look
The suit trend for women has really taken the fashion world by storm since 2018. I mean everyone and their mama owns one. I just love that it can be dressed up for the workplace and now with fashion styling, dressed down even with sneakers. Prior to this I actually never was a fan of suits but seeing the way things have changed up with bright colors and buttons, has made me want to try it out. While this outfit is not exactly a coordinated suit, it's close, don't you think? The trousers were #madeinnigeria but came with the worst camel toe which kept me racking my head on how to style it but then this look was birthed. The blazer was a thrift find previously styled here

Long time no see on the blog eh beautiful people. I'm hoping to post more on here and find a balance between posting on Instagram (which has taken over), the blog and perhaps Youtube?

colour block work look
colour block work lookcolour block work look
colour block work look
Photography by Ruth Audu


I love how this outfit turned out, from the colour palette with peach, purple, pastel blue, and pink. I honestly really didn't have a plan with this, I just started throwing colors together and it turned out better than expected. The colour blocking pairing is not bad either. Although, the accessories were really the game changer.

Just as the resurrection of Jesus Christ was the gamechanger for us Christians. This has given us the power over death, illness and any situation that is dead, ugly, horrible. Most of all its the grace, forgiveness and access to his presence. I mean can you imagine having to kill a sheep each time you sinned, most of us would have been broke. Thank God for God truly.

Shoes: Newlook || Bag: Jumia Nigeria || Blazer: Thrift || Earrings: My Velvet Box Ng (IG)

What are your thoughts on this look? Happy Easter!

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red tartan plaid midi dress with pink mules
red tartan plaid midi dress styled by abuja blogger princess audu
red tartan plaid midi dress with pink mules princess audu

In today's post, I'm styling a red tartan dress paired with a pair of #madeinnigeria pink mules. I find that tartan, plaid and gingham prints are often used interchangeably so much so that they get mixed up. Oh well, that isn't the topic for today.

I'd like to delve into the other side of social media, those sides that we don't talk about often enough. In today's world, it has become quite impossible to do without one form of social media. And as a Communications Officer and blogger/influencer, it becomes sort of hard to wean oneself off of it. That being said, I took some sort of a break of social media last year, IG particularly as I spend most of my screen time on the app and it made me realize some not so great things about the impacts of social media on my life.


Don't get me wrong, social media is great, I would not be able to make a living without it but in recent times the not so great sides have sort of overwhelmed the great sides of social media.

1. Comparison
 First, there is this comparison trap that comes with seeing the highlights of peoples lives online and think you're missing out. Wanting to be like other people or have things that one doesn't need. Wondering why you're not at a certain level when your mates or people who started before you have reached there. While we may know that comparison is the thief of joy, it actually takes great effort not to compare. I always tell people to stop assuming and take everything online with a grain of salt but this requires a conscious effort.

2. Self Worth
Then there's this gratification that comes with likes, followers etc. Which goes further to now gaining some self-worth based on recognition from a social media app, when in actuality no one really cares in the real world. One has to try not to get lost thinking that you're the shit and stay humble.

3. Addictive
Now don't get me started on how addictive and time consuming it can be, especially when not controlled. One minute you hop on Instagram and the next thing you know, one hour later and you're still scrolling mindlessly while neglecting other things. 

4. Vulnerability
There's something about social media that makes us quite vulnerable. It's the fact that we have absolutely no control over what happens to our content once it's published. It should be something of concern but we often forget this fact, I'm guilty too. The internet is forever though and we never know where that post will end up or how it'll affect us down the line.

red tartan plaid midi dress styled
red tartan plaid midi dress
red tartan plaid midi dress
Photography by Ruth Audu


I don't know why you may be using social media but as a blogger, I can't do without it, particularly Instagram. I hate to admit this but checking my IG page is one of the first things I do when I wake up. In fact, my performance on the app can even influence my overall mood. Perhaps it's just me but then I doubt that. The truth is when you invest so much into something, you'd want to see results. 

I guess it is important not to get lost in it all. It's important to define our self worth from something greater (GOD) because deriving value from an app that can disappear at any moment, is dangerous. Also, regular breaks are great for one's peace of mind. Interestingly enough, I've found that I enjoy certain apps a lot more when I'm not posting on them regularly because then I'm not worrying about engagement but simply enjoying other people's content.

Dress: Ericdress || Mules: beaufeet.ng

It appears I rambled a little in this post. Either way, I'd love to know your thoughts on this/. Why do you use social media? Would you say social media has had a negative effect on you? Do such effects outway the good? How has social media affected you either consciously or unconsciously? 

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Nestled in a corner of Bamboo house at no 3 Salt Lake Street, Maitama, Abuja, lies the Rue Cafe. A place where one can get vegan and keto friendly meals, take in a great ambience and read a good African literature book.  I had come across this cafe sometime last year through a friend. The location is quite interesting as you wouldn't expect such a cool spot upon entering the compound. I just love the fact that new cafes keep popping up all around Abuja. Anyways, I reached out to the brand and thus birthed this collaboration. I revisited the cafe as they had rebranded and decorated. Here's how it went.  

AMBIANCE/ AESTHETICS
Upon walking in I noticed that the decor had changed slightly. There were more browns and greens, more wood and plants, which I loved. I thought it very befitting for the restaurant. I spotted books littering the walls, shelves, and even raffia items as well as cool wooden artefacts. I couldn't capture the entire place due to situations beyond my control but the cafe could probably seat over 16 persons at a time. There was just something about the vibes, I loved it. It was quiet and peaceful, probably because they just re-opened.  

Related: Brunch at the Cube Art Cafe with Alexis

FOOD
 As mentioned earlier the cafe has food options that are both vegan and also keto friendly. I also spotted the basics like avocado toast, yoghurt and the rest. I however settled with the Rue Salad for N3,000 and a Strawberry Ice Tea for N1350. The Ice tea tasted like tea except with a strong mint taste which was quite good. I must add that everything tasted fresh, even the mint looked fresh. The drinks came first as we waited for the salad, it took a tad longer than expected. 

 The Rue salad consisted of a lovely spicy chicken, avocados, cucumber, lettuce, tomatoes, onions and the star of the show the cranberries! Guys, I never was a big salad person until I started trying fruits in a salad. I mean the sweet and sour taste from the fruits just changes up your typical salad and the rue salad was no exception. I also tried the salad with dressing, it tasted good without but the dressing even made it less salad-like and tastier; there was a sweet taste to it. Everything was fresh too, I only wished there was more chicken especially due to the price. 

The Rue Salad first caught my attention when I first read Mind of Amaka's Studio Diaries on the Rue; Amaka is an amazing product photographer incase you don't know already. 


 MENU
I think the prices are moderately affordable. I took a picture of the menu, see for yourself.  They have the basics like cake, croissant, and coffee too. The coffee beans are actually made in Nigeria, which I found quite cool. I didn't get to try it as it was more of a tea day for me but the next time I'll be sure to try out their coffee. It would be nice to see what our made in Nigeria coffee beans taste like. 
BOOKS
I noticed that books littered the cafe, most especially African literature like the classics from Chimamanda Adichie. I spoke to the owner Ele, who said they actually offer book exchanges and books club hosting as well. Which means you can go there and exchange your old books for other books as long as they are of the same value, pretty cool right?
Photography by Ruth Audu

Overall I loved the cafe especially the aesthetics. I don't know about you but the number one thing that influences my decision to visit a place is the ambience or esthetics as per the blogger. After all, there's food at home so yeah.  This place is blogger friendly as well, guys you can take pictures anywhere even with a camera and no complaints or stress. 

The Rue Cafe offers deliveries from 11am & 3pm Monday-Friday as well as lunch offer and a 10% discount if you bring a friend. It is open on Monday-Thursday from 9am-7pm; Friday and Saturday from 9am-9pm  and closed on Sunday. 


The Rue Cafe was kind enough to offer my followers 20% on all orders if you use my code PRINCESS20. Do let me know if you stop by. You may contact the Rue Cafe on Instagram here for any other inquiries 

I'm wearing: Trousers: Omotolanieee || Mules: Beaufeet.ng || Shirt: Thrift. 

Ever been to the Rue Cafe? What influences your decision to visit space? 


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This post has been sitting in my drafts for over a week now and I'm not sure why. Maybe it's because of the delicate nature of this topic. However, I've been nudged to get this out so let's begin.

As Christians, our bible tells us that sex outside the confines of marriage is wrong and thus sin/fornication (1Thessalonians 4:3-5). I know! It sounds a lot more serious when sex is referred to as fornication right! That's because it is. I know the world tries to make it seem normal afterall everyone is doing it but in the words of my pastor "Sin is still sin, SIN, sin".  Even our convictions, conscience prick us and tell us so.

So how does one overcome the temptation to have sex before marriage when pursuing a godly relationship?


First things first, having such desires is normal, God created us that way so we can be fruitful and multiply, literally. I believe it's even more difficult especially if you've crossed that line before. Now I am not perfect. I have my own struggles but I believe having a relationship free from sexual sin that honors God, is possible. Now it won't be easy but it is possible.

How do we do it?

1. Have an agreement

You, first of all, must both agree. There are two people in the relationship. You can't do this if both of you are not on the same page,  (Amos 3:3). In fact, it is possible to be in a relationship with a christian and still be pressured into this. If you find yourself in such, run!

2. Know your limits
Everyone is different in the sense that different things will make one fall or be tempted. Truth is sex doesn't just happen. There are signs, other things that precede it. You might have to avoid certain things (e.g. kissing) but others might be able to do it and still be fine. The key thing is to know your limits.

3. Enforce boundaries/ be intentional 
Avoid things that will lead to desire or temptation. You might need to stop spending too much time together alone behind closed doors because stuff happens. Avoid unnecessary physical contact, this is important. Yes I know that you are strong, spirit-filled, tongue talking but you honestly aren't as strong as you think. The spirit may be willing but the flesh is weak. The goal again is not to see how close you can get to the fire before getting burned but to avoid lighting the matches that can start the fire.

I came across a post by Ijeoma Kola where she shared boundaries she employed in maintaining a godly relationship with her partner before marriage. Although her circumstances were peculiar, I thought it mention-worthy as she raised some points that are quite relevant to this post. Have a read here


4. Pray and Pray

We can't do it alone that is why we talk to God and ask him for strength to overcome and wisdom too. The holy spirit gives us the strength to do Gods will and turn from temptation.

 "This righteousness is given through faith in Jesus Christ to all who believe" (Romans 3:22a)

5. Build your spirit man

Again related to the above point but the more you spend time doing things that will bring you closer to God the less the desire will be to affect your relationship or sin. Also, the more distracted you are with such things, the less time or desire you will have to sin.

6. Guard your heart and mind

You have to be mindful of the things you watch and listen too. You might want to stay away from anything related to sex, talking about it, certain discussions, films, TV shows, music videos. Watch what you allow your mind and heart to dwell on. 

"And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise"(Philippians 4:8 NLT)

"Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it." (Prov 4:23 NIV)


So what happens if you fall?

1. It's possible to fall, stuff happens, we are not perfect. Thank God for grace, we don't take advantage of it but it's always available. Just ask God for forgiveness, confess and work towards being pure. Set up better boundaries!


"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness." (1 John 1:9)

2. Don't let sin or guilt take you away from God, DON'T. He takes us as we are, no matter what we do. In fact, there is nothing we can do that can ever separate us from his love. Go to him for strength, he will strengthen you. 


"And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow, not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love." (Romans 8:38-39)

3. If you think you can't do it, remember God has given us the spirit of self-control and our faith in him has as well given us the power to do his will, you've got this!


"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentlenesses and self-control." (Galatians 5:22)

"No test or temptation that comes your way is beyond the course of what others have had to face. All you need to remember is that God will never let you down; he’ll never let you be pushed past your limit; he’ll always be there to help you come through it." (1 Corinthians 10:13)

What are your thoughts on this? Any tips on how to overcome? Let's talk. If you found this post helpful please share with a friend or your siblings. Let's help ourselves to serve God better.

Check out some resources I found helpful and relevant to this as well. 

Lay with 🔥Fire🔥- Michael Todd talks about Sex and Dating

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