SARAH SPEAKS: THE RULES OF SOCIETY

rocking all white, white jeans, white tshirt, closet basics, white pumps

I once had a side cut, have I told you guys about that before? Well it was during my experimental phase where I tried new things. Thankfully I didn’t go too far and came back to my sense quickly. So I shaved a side of my hair and even went as far as carving two lines in my shaved half. At some point I also had a noise piercing, though I'm not quite sure if was before or after that side cut.
For some reason people are always so shocked when I tell them this, as according to them it doesn’t sound like me or suit my character.

My thinking then was, its just hair! But unfortunately we live in a society that judges a book by its cover, always. A society that does not take time to look beyond the surface but makes decisions based on what they see immediately. To me and some of my friends, that haircut and piercing was cool and edgy but to others it was a sign of irresponsibility.

rocking all white, white jeans, white tshirt, closet basics, white pumps

A friend of mine once told me, before I got to know you I actually thought you were a wild child based on that haircut. At another point I met one of my Nigerian friends’ parents and the look and expressions they gave me was just sad and so judgemental.

 I've always said we can’t please everyone hence it’s important to do what makes us happy. But then when it comes to modes of dressing, habits and behaviours that are not aligned with our personality then what? 

side cut hairstyle, hairstyle for black women, short hair-dos
 A toned down version of my then side cut 

So am I saying we should always listen to what people say? No, but our outer behaviours should reflect who we are as individuals. First impressions are all we have, after all and once lost, cannot be fixed. Of course people will always judge but I believe we should present ourselves properly to avoid negative perceptions about who we are. I mean how would you perceive your banker or president if they showed up to an official meeting dressed in jeans and a T-shirt.

The quote "dress the way you want to be addressed says it all". In the same vein, I think we should live in a manner that speaks well of who we are.

What are your thoughts on this? Should we conform to the rules of society to save our reputation and image? Is it important to sometimes listen to the feedback of others?
See ya next time! I appreciate you guys for reading always as this segment takes a lot of thought. And thank you guys for the awesome feedback in my last Sarah Speaks on the point of life.

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14 comments:

  1. I know what you mean, it's stupid that some people judge others only through the prism what they wear or their hairstyle. Honestly I don't think we should care what other people think about our style.
    I like your classy and stylish outfit, I like your present hairstyle and also this when you were teenager.
    Have a nice weekend:)

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    1. I think its silly too and we really shouldn't care but I think we all do it. I'm guilty of this too as we tend to judge others or form options based on stereotypes. Thanks girl, I like your more engaging comments.

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  2. Character to me is more than how a person looks and honestly that is what matters. I am all for self expression in style. It is a fun way to express one's self.

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    1. Hey Titi, thank you for stopping by. Yes I agree that character is so much more and I'm all for self expression too but perhaps not at the detriment of the perception of character. It really shouldn't be the case but it is.

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  3. Beautiful styling and you look wonderful in white :)

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  4. Love this look. But more importantly I loved the post. I've always dealt with insecurities about my looks or felt like maybe I was over doing it. But at the end of the day...I taught myself to keep my light bright and never dim my light for anyone. Opinions are like noses everybody has one.
    http://www.feleciamonique.com/2017/02/12/style-tips-how-to-wear-sneakers-be-stylish/

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    1. I agree that we should never dim our lights for anyone. It is important to love yourselves inspire of our flaws. And lol everybody has noses just like opinions. Thank you for stopping by.

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  5. You are right dear. Many judge by looks , they refuse to see beyond the physical appearance . But the right thing is to believe in oneself and stay confident !
    http://dimplekhadi.blogspot.com/2017/02/men-fashion-female-way.html

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    1. You do have a point as confidence is always key. Thank you for stopping by.

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  6. Love all your white look! So stylish!

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  7. I definitely say we shouldnt conform to societiy's standards. The key is knowing yourself, once you know who youbare and what you like then the rest is easy. People will always judge, but if you are comfortable in your skin and choices it doesnt matter!

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  8. I agree that we shouldn't conform of course but it seems most of you guys are missing my point. For example I walk into an official meeting dressed in a provocative dress because I want to and I'm comfortable in it. Now people seeing me already think I'm looking for attention or perhaps a call girl. But I'm a christian and a woman trying to get a job. Do you see what I mean, what of circumstances where our outward appearance does not translate to who we really are and then this causes people to treat us in a certain way. Then what?

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