SARAH SPEAKS: SO YOU THINK WOMEN ARE MEAT?

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"Hey baby"," fine girl", "my color" or the most annoying ones "eess" and "sss" are the kind of calls a woman often gets from men when walking on the streets. Now this issue of cat calling or harassment on the streets is one that has both bothered and weighed on my mind for a while.

The other day, I was walking somewhere with my younger brother who towers over me and this guy in one corner keep calling out "hey baby" "sexy lady" etc. Of course I didn't turn around but my outspoken self was ticking. I had to willfully stop myself from calling him out because honestly I wonder if it would even make a difference since this happens on a daily basis and I know I'm not alone.

In fact, it's cat calls like this that contribute to one if the reasons why I don't wear makeup everyday (trying to reduce the attention), always walk with earphones plugged in, look mean all the time, avoid eye contact with men as I pass (ain't no body trying to encourage anybody) and dislike going to the market at times (all those men trying to grab your hands).

Its experiences like this that inspired this post, Dear Nigerian guys. And shortly after this post I had guys defend themselves saying what's wrong with showing appreciation for something you like or complimenting a beautiful woman? Nothing really, honestly, but its all about approach too. I mean how's a woman supposed to feel being addressed like that by someone she doesn't even know. It's so disrespectful, are we meat? Or do we look like animals?

I'd be the first to admit that I admire good looking or well dressed guys but do I go on the road shouting "fine boy" to every good looking guy I see? Well no and its called respect. Its all about choosing to respect yourself and the dignity of the other person too.

To men that do this or think this is right, don't you have sisters, daughters, wives, girlfriends or female friends? How would you feel if someone did this to her in your presence?

I know most of my readers are women but to men who understand our plight, shout out to you and please share this post for other men to read.

What are your thoughts on this? As a woman have you ever been in such situations? How did or do you handle them? What can we do to put an end to women harassment especially on the streets?

Happy New Month!

12 comments:

larisa gbubemi Ejuts said...

Lmaoo!!!!! I hate it so much too and the most annoying one is. "My color"!? in my head I am like who is ur color 😂😂 The grabbing of hand is the worst for me, Haba 😭 I try to avoid this in the market. Guys need to be more respectful tbh. Sometimes I just smile and keep moving or Ignore.

Sarah Enuwa Audu said...

Smiling only encourages some of them and makes them think one is interested. I just ignore but it needs to stop, it's not okay.

Desmond James said...

Hmmmmm it's alright

DLeonaLife said...

No, it wouldn't have made any difference if you had call him out, it is not worthy it walahi. That hand holding one is the most annoying, I had to shove one guy one day like that, nearly caused fight. Smh. To me it is just lack of respect, I want to say home training but no, I respect their parents enough not say that. So it actually lack of self training, So dear Nigerian boys (and girls) train ya sef. Thank you Sarah for this post.

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Sarah Enuwa Audu said...

But it really isn't though

Sarah Enuwa Audu said...

Please tell them oh, train your self guys please. I can totally relate girl, I've almost gotten into fights because of this too or experienced guys calling me out for not replying.

Oreoluwa A. said...

Triggering post! We need to first fully accept that MANY Nigerian men are MANNER-LESS.I don't understand how doing these things mean that you are appreciating a woman; the men who walk up to women to start a decent conversation, do they have tow heads?

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Sarah Enuwa Audu said...

Help me ask them oh, like I said it's all about approach. Because I've had pretty decent conversations with guys on the street and some of them are even convincing enough for me to want to give my number to them. So yes I agree with you a lot of Nigerian men are mannerless and its sad, really sad.

9jagirlfriend's Blog said...

The worse is when you have to pass through a bus stop that harbors a lot of agberos. You'd just be thinking "should I ignore or hit back at them." But wahali there must be one rude enough that you can't help hitting back at him.

Sarah Enuwa Audu said...

Or what about a specific spot where guys are sitting and talking or a particular segment in the market where only men sell items, the stress though especially of being a woman in Nigeria or world in general. This should be my next topic. Thanks for the inspiration and for stopping by.

Dominika Goodness said...

I think all the cat calls, hand dragging and touching, embarrassing approaches are down right insulting to women. It's about time those men put themselves in our shoes and see if they would actually enjoy their so-called 'compliments'. Thanks for posting this Sarah.


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Sarah Enuwa Audu said...

I agree it is very insulting and degrading. I agree with them trying to be empathetic hence my question asking don't they have women in their live? Thanks for stopping by always, girl.

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